A little blog about my life as a wife and mom raising two boys(one who has Asperger's Syndrome). Sassy Aspie Mom is a Facebook Page and Blog. I hope to create an outreach to other moms going through trying times. Raising children on the spectrum can be exhausting and challenging! We have to take back our lives, so we can be warriors for our kids!
“You don’t know me at all.” That is his new catch phrase.
“Hunter, please go clean your room.”
“You don’t know me at all.”
“Hunter, I know you have homework. Please do not lie to me.”
“You don’t know me at all!”
He is trying to be hurtful. He is a teenager. He wants to
put me in my place because I am the one available. I just ignore him and
continue with my message to do his homework or clean his room or explain why he
can’t continue to lie to me, but the truth is I want to say so much more!
I want to yell at the top of my lungs…
I know you better than you may ever know yourself. I know
that you are amazingly intelligent. I know that you knew every NFL football
team before you were 3 years-old, including players, their numbers, their
positions, and the college team they played for before going to the pros. You
know more about history than I could ever know. I don’t have any idea how you
are able to retain all of that information.
I know you have an amazing connection with animals. You seem
to speak to them on a different level. Sometimes I think it is easier for you
to connect with them than people. It is like you have your own language.
I know that no matter how much you hate me for doing it, I
must make you clean your room, brush your teeth, take a shower, and use your table
I know that when you strut around like you are so confident,
you are actually really scared and
unsure. The whole world awaits you, but so much of it seems like a puzzle. It
is exciting and scary, really scary to you. Even though you think I don’t know
anything, I know you lean on me for the best advice I can give. Unfortunately,
I know sometimes I fall short, but I’m giving it my best buddy.
I know you like girls with pale skin and blond hair (this
mom really didn’t need to hear this quite yet)! I know that you don’t quite
understand the dynamic of the whole guy/girl thing, but you are learning. It
just might take you a while longer for you to get there.
I know that you love your Dad. You look at him with those
admiring eyes. I hope you will grow into the kind and loyal man he is someday.
He may never say the words to you enough, but he loves you more than words
could every say, and he would give anything for you to never hurt or struggle.
I know that I will never stop telling you how much you can
achieve in your life. You have been given amazing talents. I can’t stop pushing
you to set your goals and give it your all.
I know you hate schoolwork. I know it is not easy. I know
some of the concepts are so tough for you to understand. I know that there are
so many other things going on in your mind and it is hard to shut down in order
I know that no matter how hard this life gets and no matter
how many times you fall down, I will be there to help you back up. When you are
unsure, I will try to help you understand. When you want to quit, I won’t let
Hunter, Hunter, Hunter, I know you all right. I have known
you since the first time I looked into those big brown eyes and knew my purpose
for being. I look forward to knowing you more as you grow on this journey of
life. There will be ups and down and there will be struggles, but in the end,
that is what make life so much sweeter. I love you!